Friday, December 28, 2012

the art of listening


JNET: "Cool groove. But the lyrics sound ........ depressing."

R: "The lyrics? I don't know them."

JNET: "Its about disappointment with love and being bitterly betrayed. How very sad. I couldn't listen to that every day. It would mess with my psyche. Love the groove though."

It was tempting to add the song to my iPod but it was not quite fitting for the negativity slayer listening arsenal. I passed even after several occasions of listening to different covers and arrangements of it. Great song; but not quite what I'd like to feed into my subconscious. Boo.

Being a negativity slayer is a rigorous commitment.

It might be hard to bounce having daily life and the weight of another persons disappointments singing into each day; consciously or even subconsciously.

Imagine beginning each day "grooving" to life-stinks-I-am-devastated-by-love-I-feel-numb-to-life songs. As long as it doesn't sound like a funeral march and you can dance to it...why not? Yet, if your best friend started each day telling you how broken up and angry they were about something, you would hope they changed their tune eventually.

But then again... Do we find ourselves dancing to such tunes?  Songs to which we aren't even listening to the lyrics?

Just a thought on listening. I hope life sounds just right for you. If not, maybe there's a tune that needs to be nixed from your listening list.

JNET

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

an infinitely different world

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“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.
From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.”

J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
 
Jnetsworld turned 8 this past October and I forgot to celebrate with a blog post. Well better late than never.
Jnetsworld is eight and the negativity slayer is alive and well in the land of weirdness.  For anyone that is experiencing the bumpy side of life, there is light at the end of every tunnel.   Expect a miracle and make yourself available to helping create  it despite challenging conditions.   It is not easy but claiming one’s castle is no small task.

Checking out for two years to restructure and embrace silence has been restorative making clear who in my life was solid.   I found treasure among the ruins.   In the silence I attended dance classes.  I spoke very little and rushed home to solitude after rehearsals.

I can’t recommend dance classes enough as a way to heal one’s inner self.  When one feels paralyzed in their mind, its counter-intuitive to dance let alone get off the couch and be active.  I found a space to learn how to move again in dance classes.  I reunited with my hula hoop and made friends with a kettle bell.  In the space of dance classes and exercise, I found directors and mentors that took me under their wing.  Dance classes evolved to dance rehearsals and from a place where fear and sorrow once dominated came hope and enthusiasm.

If you told me then when the lights of my world went dark that I would be dancing on the Hollywood Bowl stage ….part of something beautiful ….feeling love through the core of me, I would’ve cried and had a hard time believing that life can change profoundly.  Quite frankly, I might’ve slammed the door on you in a moment of weakness and self-pity.

Doing what is counter-intuitive; dancing when one feels frozen helped bring me to a space where I can say I am still here building my world and I celebrate 8 years of writing of it.  Thank you readers for your encouragements throughout the years.  Your hellos also gave me wings.

JNET

Comments from a few jnetsworld readers through the years:

NSV:  “Ahhhh, nothing a couple of Bloody Marys and a long walk in the park can’t cure. I stumbled across your blog from Flickr (we both share the photo above as a favorite). Hang in there with the writing!”

REBECCA:  “I really like this lady! Deep, intelligent, creative, and a fellow introvert.”

DOCTORMTE: “A superb diarist resides here … jnet writes with calming power and silken insight …”

JASON:  “a blog that shows off a strong-willed and elegant personality.”

PAULFRANK:  “I think I am in love.”

DESTINYSFATE:  “Different in each & every way possible yet so much in which she shares….I’m in awe of how I can honestly concur & relate to the 100th degree. Unique virtual boutique of expressions and suggestions”

JAMES:  “Jnet, I love the way you write…such beauty.”

LITBITOFSONSHINE:  “I loved her creative writing on her stumbleupon and her wordpress.   She rocks and rolls and has such a open and sharing and caring understanding soul; one I even marked to read again as I will also visit her pages.  Its nice to learn about families from her point of view as well as so many other mind expanding things – just wowzers.”

DAVE:  “I loved your “loving like an athlete.”  Keep up your good writing….”

WILSON:  “Piercingly, enticing with her open mind, but concealing herself very successfully from the lackadaisical.”

CAT:  “Entertaining, thought-provoking, pleasant and free-spirited. i was impressed with this blog. :) !”

HUQQUH:  “JNET is an explorer on the frontiers of her self and her trail is worth sharing. Thanks, JNET…”

ALAN:  “You inspired me to change my blogs look as well, alas, my change was not as stunningly successful as yours. This is to be expected though, since your talent shines through everything you do here.  My compliments!”

DESTINY:  “Love your world and thanks to you, I can now define myself in all the diversity and unique(ness) that I possess as a person…as a woman. Just saying Hello and wanted to share that..nothing more.  I enjoy the substance of your blogs.”

METALT:  “Very impressive blog about life and I might add – balanced life. jnetsworld is a place I want to visit often and I deeply appreciate her for sharing with us.”

BUNNY:  “i enjoyed her blog… lots of neat quotes… wonderful lasting images… lasting thoughts… a rainbow of ideas…”

RICHARD:  “My beautiful and talented friend.  Again, I must tell you how well you write, but of much more importance than that, how very proud I am to “know” someone like you. You have such fine judgment, your values are impeccable and you seem dedicated to your art. As you know, choosing a life of creativity is not without its pitfalls. However, you do not need my advice and will find your way.  You know I wish you well, Richard.”

MOM:  “Honey, I love all that you write. Keep the passion, keep writing. I’m so proud of you.”